This morning… oh this morning…
It started out with an alarm I hit the snooze on (multiple times), by accident of course, followed by my 6 year old grabbing my face saying,“GET UP DAD!! We are going to be LATE for school!!!”
One look at the clock and I realized she’s right, I’ve way over-slept and so begins my hurried morning.
I wish I could say my attitude, tone of voice and general disposition were… less then snappy…
But over the next 30 minutes, picture me in a tornado of exhausted preparation.
I raced down the stairs to help my wife make lunches, make smoothies,
change our daughter’s clothes,change that diaper that is peeling paint off the walls…
((pause for a reflective cup of coffee))
…wait… ain’t nobody got time for that!
The kitchen is a wreck but who cares… We. Are. LATE!!!
At this time I realize I’m not ready myself, so in a mad dash through my room,
I grab my sweat pants and hoodie and I’m out the door lookin’ like Rocky IV.
A quick hug and kiss from my wife, who by the way has an, “I told you to get up” look on her face,
and we’re out the door.
The conversation on the way to school goes as follows:
“Ava did you make your bed and brush your teeth?”
“Ava, why not?!?! Why do I have to keep telling you these things?!?!”
“But dad, you didn’t make your bed or brush your teeth???”
The final score:
Being late to school and silenced by your 6 1/2 yr old = 1
Daddy’s demonstration of leadership and self-discipline = 0
It’s interesting to note that Ava didn’t remind me of what I’ve been telling her.
Truth is, she never does.
It’s always a reference back to what she saw me do… or not do 😦
I realize more and more, there are 2 lessons I’m teaching my daughter’s:
1. What daddy says
2. What daddy does
I’m learning the 2nd one is having the most impact.
The reality is we have a lot to say. We talk a lot and we know a lot.
We love to “preach” don’t we?
However, our greatest sermon will never be with our words but with our walk.
This morning was NOT one of my finer moments.
But one thing I am learning and in some ways, it’s the silver lining of these moments.
The power in saying, “Daddy was wrong, forgive me.”
Not over explaining or trying to justify my reasons and lack of self-discipline, but merely owning it.
It diffuses the moment and an even greater lesson can be learned.
Leadership is not a lifestyle of perfection or knowing more then the people you lead.
If we are to be successful in our leadership, at work or at home, we must be lead first.
I’ll do you a favor and spare you the endless “one liners” on leadership.
Instead, here’s some encouragement. God’s not done with us yet.
You may be leading a whole team of people at a corporate job, or at a church, or maybe just an army of children,
dead-set on making sure you never sleep again… (true story) …but know this, God is still at work on YOU.
On the days I wake up early and let God’s word speak to me first, before all the demands of the day come at me,
I find all these other things are “added unto me.” (Matthew 6:33)
All my weakness and strengths are aligned, not in who I am, but in Who is at work in me.
My desires to know Him more, be a good husband and father, grow as a worship leader & songwriter,
are focused and put in their proper place.
God knows I need Him. He knows what the day holds and also knows that what comes out of my mouth,
will not be as impactful as what flows from my life lived out in front of others.
So, If you find yourself having a day like I did, don’t excuse it, own it!
Making mistakes and asking for forgiveness isn’t a sign of weakness, but one of great strength.
A great line I remember from the movie “Captain America” comes to mind.
Dr. Abraham Erskine says to Steve Rogers (Captain ‘merica), when explaining what the serum will do to him after they inject it:
“The serum (or leadership) amplifies everything that is inside. So, good becomes great.
Bad becomes worse. This is why you were chosen.
Because a strong man, who has known power all his life, will lose respect for that power.
But a WEAK man… a weak man, knows the value of strength and knows compassion.”
Steve is chosen as a leader, not because of his perfection but because of what’s inside him.
Self-control and self-discipline don’t happen on their own.
Try all we want to fix ourselves, but we’ll keep on falling short.
God’s not done with us, no matter how high of a leader we are, we need His strength as our source.
So, as we seek Him first, may our walks grow ever-louder than our words.
…oh, and maybe loose the snooze button.